It started at her 2 year well-check. The Doc, after looking at her measurements for height and weight gave us her projected adult height… probably around 5’3- 5’4. When Doc left the room, the hubby looked at me with a pout, almost in tears, and said: “I want her to be tall.”
I looked at him for a moment, then slowly extended my hand and introduced myself: “Hi, I’m your wife; the woman you married; the woman you chose to contribute 50% of the genetic material for your children.”
This is a good place to tell you a little something about myself: I am short. I don’t just mean “not tall”—I mean, I am tiny. On a good day I measure 5 ft. even and I weigh in at just over 100 lbs. If it weren’t for the slight curve of hip and, well, my butt, from the back I would look like a child. It is not just me; I come from short stock. My whole family is short: my mom is 5’2, I my dad is something like 5’6. Most of my 6 brothers and sisters are short. I do have one brother who is 6 ft.—an aberration of a freakish nature. We really don’t trust him because of his height and if it weren’t for the close-set eyes and missing incisor teeth that run in the family we would inquire as to a mix-up at birth.
My husband is not totally non-observant and he does call me “chiquitita”… which leads me to believe that he has noticed my non-model-esque physique. So how could he think our kids were going to be tall?
Yet, it keeps coming up. He’ll suggest we feed her more, so that she maximizes whatever genetic potential she has for height. I counter that over-feeding her may maximize her genetic potential for width as well and we’ll end up with a very short, very obese daughter—you know which may have far greater ramifications than just being smallish.
There are a lot of things I want for my children: that they find something they are passionate about; that they find true love; that they are healthy and live way longer than their parents; that they are bright and compassionate; that they take care of us in our old age since we don’t have a 401K.
To be fair, hubby wants these things for our kids too; it is not that his only wish for them is to be tall. But tall isn’t even on my list… I guess because I have always been short and have totally come to terms with it.
Of course, studies have shown that tall people are more valued in the workplace and tend to earn higher salaries… which could help us solve the retirement issue.